The American Heritage Dictionary defines a slut as, “A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.”
If you put it in those terms this book, The Ethical Slut, is only as correctly titled as your opinion. The bulk of the book does not deal with sex per se, but rather with relationships. If you consider that a lot of the book deals with polyamory, then some would consider the person living this type of life a slut. Of course, others would not, so it’s all in the interpretation.
Either way, this is a book that has had quite a history. I’d heard quite a bit about it in BDSM circles, mentioned alongside, Screw the Roses and other worthwhile reads. Like many of these books, I had not had a chance to read this until I picked up a copy recently.
If you are looking for a book to help you creatively weed through some relationship problems, this can offer a good start. If you are interested in polygamy then this is an amazing book. If you’re not, you still might find some things worth reading, but it will not hold the same importance for you, as it will other people. Everyone has heard the term polygamy, but if you’re interested in learning more, weeding out the proper information can be quite difficult. This book will change all of that for you, giving you some of the information that you need to determine if this type of thing is for you, or not.
The book itself is made into four main parts that each serve their own purpose. In the first part you will focus on your sexuality. This section deals with a lot of ethical discussion and talk of values. This is where you learn that the best sluts are made this way. They are not just sluts from birth. I particularly enjoyed reading about the skills and slutstyles in this section. The first part also offers an amazing resource list.
The second part is invaluable to those entering into polygamous relationships. You will find information on agreements, jealousy, conflict, and advice on the importance of boundaries. One of the most important sections in this entire book is the one on jealousy. While jealousy is a natural emotion it can cause a huge amount of trouble. Read this section more than once and when you are feeling bad about yourself or your relationship, read it again. There is plenty of advice here that can benefit you when you need it the most.
Stars: Marie Luv, Dana DeArmond, Mr. Marcus, Mika Tan, Jack Lawrence, Kurt Lockwood, Taryn Thomas Studio: Vivid Entertainment Condoms: No
There are so many things that make me picky about porn. I hate when it’s over-scripted (let’s face it, the writing doesn’t warrant over-scripting). I hate it when the girl’s seem like they are dead. I really hate the up close and way too personal asshole shot. The other thing I hate, I mean seriously hate, is the cum shot. It just seems so absolutely unnecessary. Even if it has to be done sometimes, does it have to be done every time? I mean, I’m a smart girl. I get the point. However, I’ve yet to meet a man that insists on cumming on my face every time we have sex. And if I did meet him, we’d only be having sex once.
So, my expectations for porn are somewhat high. What can I say? I want to be entertained when I’m watching. When I heard about Chemistry and learned that it’s porn in a reality setting (sans script) I was certainly curious. Who wouldn’t be about a house filled with seven porn stars, some cameras, and plenty of sex toys for a no-holds barred orgy? I have to admit, the idea sounds really nice. The stars are placed in the house for 36 hours and there are absolutely no scripted sex scenes.
The porn stars all seem incredibly relaxed during their chatting sessions. During the sex scenes they are all quite involved. I can guarantee you won’t find one of those dead chicks in Chemistry. All of these girls are loving their job, at least in this film. In addition to the long and involved sex scenes the DVD has confession sessions after the scenes, which are quite entertaining in their own way. I refuse to say this is the best DVD ever, because I know that when I say that there will be something better to come along. However, it’s really good. In fact, it’s one of the best I’ve ever seen and it’s certainly the best I’ve seen in recent months.
Stars: Carmen Luvana, Courtney Cummz, Ava Rose, Jean Val Jean, Bree Olson, Tommy Gunn, Evan Stone, Jerry, Evan Valentine Studio: Adam & Eve Condoms: Yes and No
Put some sexy stars in a perfect location with some good cameras and you have to expect the best right? Well, not exactly. It’s not bad, but this is going to be something more suited for your average new to porn watcher or couple that prefers tame sex romps to the harder stuff. Eden isn’t awful. It certainly isn’t the worst I have seen. However, this isn’t something that went out of its way to do anything for me either. The incredibly tame nature of this film was somewhat boring to me, but I lived through it easily enough to be able to point out all the good and bad things, with some middle ground in between.
This movie lasts for around two hours and contains ten main sex scenes. There are some special features that include trailers, interviews, bloopers, photo galleries, behind the scenes featurettes, and a casting call feature. The bonus features add about an hour and a half of additional content, but if you’re in it for the fucking (and who isn’t, this is porn, right?) then you may only be interested in the first two hours.
The cast list includes some mildly enthusiastic women and some decent looking guys. Most of them aren’t my favorite stars or the most well known at this point, but they certainly get the job done nicely. Eden is really tame and the major storyline is centered on romance, so if you’re looking for something Hardcore, this garden variety Lifetime porn will not suit you. The idea is that it should work for women that do not like porn. Of course, some cum shots are still present and accounted for (it’s not 10 for 10 though) so I am not sure how many women that don’t like porn will be jumping on the Eden bandwagon.
I came upon Liberator by accident. I was writing for a client that was obsessed with the company. I will admit that the products looked interesting. They did catch my eye. However, most of the shapes come with a mighty price tag, which caused me to put the site away before I really got interested. A few months later I came across the site again. The second time around they had some new shapes. One of those shapes is a huge round shape akin to a bean bag with a lot more uses. However, the price was still hefty and I was worried about paying that much money if it could end up not being worth it. I have heard this fear quite a bit. Now that I have tried the Zeppelin, I can honestly say, it’s worth every penny and then some.
The most exciting moment of my day was hearing the knock on the door and seeing the three large boxes that contained the waiting to be assembled Zeppelin. The Zeppelin is simple to assemble and well worth the effort. You cannot go wrong with Liberator. The Zeppelin is so soft that you’d think you were lying on air. Filled with champagne foam, this could not possibly be any softer or more comfortable than it is.
You can use the Zeppelin like you would any other piece of furniture. I’ve used mine to do homework on, watch movies, and read books. Hell, it’s so comfortable I have even fallen asleep on it. Of course, the intended purpose is far more interesting than using it to sleep. When it comes to sex you have no idea how many possibilities Liberator can open for you.
Never trust a product, in this case a book, when the title says “You Know You Love It.” I will admit that I certainly do love “it” when it means BDSM. I love BDSM. I don’t love this book though or the author’s representation of the BDSM world. In fact, reading this book was more torture than this simple masochist could handle. This memoir would have been better titled “You Know You Shouldn’t Read This” or “Beware, Boring and Unnecessary is Ahead.” Either way, this was one review I would have much rather left in the dirt; far under the dirt where no one could ever find this pointless, narcissistic drivel.
I had never heard of Ms. Paris before reading this book. After reading it I can safely say I would have rather been left in the dark. There are so many things that bother me about this book of “lessons” that I am not sure I know where to begin. First let me say, if you’re not the standard variety want-to-be bored or boring, desperate housewife then this book probably isn’t something you will be able to relate to. Second, if you have enough BDSM knowledge to know what the acronym stands for, this book probably also is not for you.
The information pointed towards those in need of sexual mischief make me scoff, but the information on BDSM made me want to shut the book on more than one occasion. In fact, in the entire book, there was one section that I liked. The section was at the end of the book and contained a set of shopping links. The rest I would have gladly shredded just to ensure I never see it again.
This book is meant to offer people who need help and information about sexual mischief, as Paris puts it. However, I am still not sure what, if anything, I learned, other than to be much more careful when picking review material. If you have any knowledge about sex this ends up being a book that offers nice shopping links and not a lot more than that. Other than that you might be considering how many paper airplanes need to be made to beat the world record and if there are enough bland and unneeded pages in this book to become the champion.
Tantra is one of those things that seem so mysterious and elusive where sex is concerned. It seems that the only people with the knowledge are the ones that have firsthand experience. Since I am not one of those people, I decided to find someone that is. So, I politely prodded a friend of mine, Al Vitaro, owner of TantraChair.com and asked him if he would be kind enough to answer some questions for me. He was more than happy to help and jumped into the questions head first, hoping to entertain and enlighten those of you choosing to read this.
Q. For our readers that have no clue what Tantra is, can you please give a brief description of what it means?
A. Hello Ashtyn…my pleasure. When someone hears the word Tantra, in most cases, they understand that it has something to do with sex. This is true to some extent but in actuality, Tantra is a way of life and involves every aspect of an individual’s life. Tantra is a spiritual path so to speak, much like Zen Buddhism. Many Zen Buddhists are very “Tantric” in the way they live their lives.
Mindfulness and respectful inner and outer behavior is paramount. Tantra originated in India in the 4th - 9th century AD. and the concept behind the sexual aspect of Tantra is very special. It involves raising the kundalini (sacred energy that exists within us) and using this energy to achieve heightened awareness or enlightenment. During sacred intimacy, this energy is very present and a Tantric master understands how to harness this energy and go into Samadhi or an enlightened state.
Sure, when someone tells you to go blow fire out your ass you probably think that it’s not possible. I always thought it wasn’t possible. Then again, I never wanted to do it even if it was possible. I guess some people do want to do it though.
While looking around Red Tube today, I came across this video below. All I can say is I certainly wasn’t expecting what I ended up seeing.
When I think of sex furniture a lot of very different visions come to mind. I see Liberator products with the micro-suede finishes, I see wild shapes, and I see things you need to keep behind a locked door. However, every now and then a product is introduced to me that is so sexy and you can keep it out in the open, but that can be used for mind blowing orgasms when said room is free of guests. One of these products is called the Tantra Chair.
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Toys that you can strap on and wear in public are usually fun to play with. Of course, most of them cannot really be worn and used in public unless you want someone to hear the familiar buzzing sound coming from under your skirt. So, naturally, when it’s review time and this type of toy is being tested that is one of the first things that I pay attention to. The Beautiful G-Spot Butterfly passes the test by being quiet enough for use in public. Of course, it’s not a wireless unit, so you might have to be crafty with your switch unit depending on where you are going.
This Butterfly is special because it has a dong attachment that is meant to target your g-spot. Meanwhile it has specific pointed ends that are meant to target both the clit and the anus on opposite ends. On the surface this one sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it? Well in many ways it is. The Beautiful G-Spot Butterfly has some definite positive points, but for $50 there are better toys and better butterflies on the market.
For a Jelly toy this isn’t so bad. It’s firmer than a lot of the others I have come in contact with and it has potential. However, there are some issues. For starters, and perhaps one of the biggest negatives, is the weight of the toy. It’s incredibly heavy. In fact, it’s heavy enough to not want to stay inserted unless you have on some form-fitting panties on to keep it in place, and even then it seems to fall out. So, if you’re planning to wear this out for a night on the town, despite its quiet nature it probably won’t work out.
Next is the issue of the penis and the length. The toy is five inches long. While it does serve a purpose at the length it is, a few added inches wouldn’t have hurt. However, it probably wouldn’t have helped the weight of this either. So, I guess you’re screwed (though not literally) either way, eh? It does not target the G-spot as effectively as I would have liked it to at this length. A nicer way to put it is that it’s limited in how it targets those sweet spots. When lying down you are going to be in a better position to reach orgasm. Sitting up with this may end up making you feel uncomfortable instead of overly stimulated.
While the penis has its issues, the stimulating ends do, as well. Likewise, these are just a bit too small, especially when sitting up, to do their job with precision. Again if you are lying down you can position the ends better, but this won’t work when you are up and moving. Of course, this is the type of toy that you want to use in different positions whether you are on the go or not. The problem is that you have to lie down to get the best use out of the Beautiful G-Spot Butterfly.
The unit offers five different speeds that deal with the vibration of the ends and the rotation of the penis. Even at the highest speed I felt that the levels were not high enough to do anything, but get me hot and leave me frustrated. That was probably the worst part of all, though I am sure that in the right position this could make some women feel mighty nice. I just do not feel that it ends up being worth it if you have to position yourself to make it work the way that it should in any position (given the nature of the toy). Due to these issues and taking in the factor of the price, I have to say that you can find plenty of better vibrators out there in this price range.
Stars: Marie Luv, Dana DeArmond, Mr. Marcus, Mika Tan, Jack Lawrence, Kurt Lockwood, Taryn Thomas
Stars: Carmen Luvana, Courtney Cummz, Ava Rose, Jean Val Jean, Bree Olson, Tommy Gunn, Evan Stone, Jerry, Evan Valentine
I came upon Liberator by accident. I was writing for a client that was obsessed with the company. I will admit that the products looked interesting. They did catch my eye. However, most of the shapes come with a mighty price tag, which caused me to put the site away before I really got interested. A few months later I came across the site again. The second time around they had some new shapes. One of those shapes is a huge round shape akin to a bean bag with a lot more uses. However, the price was still hefty and I was worried about paying that much money if it could end up not being worth it. I have heard this fear quite a bit. Now that I have tried the Zeppelin, I can honestly say, it’s worth every penny and then some.
Toys that you can strap on and wear in public are usually fun to play with. Of course, most of them cannot really be worn and used in public unless you want someone to hear the familiar buzzing sound coming from under your skirt. So, naturally, when it’s review time and this type of toy is being tested that is one of the first things that I pay attention to. The B
