The American Heritage Dictionary defines a slut as, “A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.”

If you put it in those terms this book, The Ethical Slut, is only as correctly titled as your opinion. The bulk of the book does not deal with sex per se, but rather with relationships. If you consider that a lot of the book deals with polyamory, then some would consider the person living this type of life a slut. Of course, others would not, so it’s all in the interpretation.

Either way, this is a book that has had quite a history. I’d heard quite a bit about it in BDSM circles, mentioned alongside, Screw the Roses and other worthwhile reads. Like many of these books, I had not had a chance to read this until I picked up a copy recently.

If you are looking for a book to help you creatively weed through some relationship problems, this can offer a good start. If you are interested in polygamy then this is an amazing book. If you’re not, you still might find some things worth reading, but it will not hold the same importance for you, as it will other people. Everyone has heard the term polygamy, but if you’re interested in learning more, weeding out the proper information can be quite difficult. This book will change all of that for you, giving you some of the information that you need to determine if this type of thing is for you, or not.

The book itself is made into four main parts that each serve their own purpose. In the first part you will focus on your sexuality. This section deals with a lot of ethical discussion and talk of values. This is where you learn that the best sluts are made this way. They are not just sluts from birth. I particularly enjoyed reading about the skills and slutstyles in this section. The first part also offers an amazing resource list.

The second part is invaluable to those entering into polygamous relationships. You will find information on agreements, jealousy, conflict, and advice on the importance of boundaries. One of the most important sections in this entire book is the one on jealousy. While jealousy is a natural emotion it can cause a huge amount of trouble. Read this section more than once and when you are feeling bad about yourself or your relationship, read it again. There is plenty of advice here that can benefit you when you need it the most.

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Never trust a product, in this case a book, when the title says “You Know You Love It.” I will admit that I certainly do love “it” when it means BDSM. I love BDSM. I don’t love this book though or the author’s representation of the BDSM world. In fact, reading this book was more torture than this simple masochist could handle. This memoir would have been better titled “You Know You Shouldn’t Read This” or “Beware, Boring and Unnecessary is Ahead.” Either way, this was one review I would have much rather left in the dirt; far under the dirt where no one could ever find this pointless, narcissistic drivel.

I had never heard of Ms. Paris before reading this book. After reading it I can safely say I would have rather been left in the dark. There are so many things that bother me about this book of “lessons” that I am not sure I know where to begin. First let me say, if you’re not the standard variety want-to-be bored or boring, desperate housewife then this book probably isn’t something you will be able to relate to. Second, if you have enough BDSM knowledge to know what the acronym stands for, this book probably also is not for you.

The information pointed towards those in need of sexual mischief make me scoff, but the information on BDSM made me want to shut the book on more than one occasion. In fact, in the entire book, there was one section that I liked. The section was at the end of the book and contained a set of shopping links. The rest I would have gladly shredded just to ensure I never see it again.

This book is meant to offer people who need help and information about sexual mischief, as Paris puts it. However, I am still not sure what, if anything, I learned, other than to be much more careful when picking review material. If you have any knowledge about sex this ends up being a book that offers nice shopping links and not a lot more than that. Other than that you might be considering how many paper airplanes need to be made to beat the world record and if there are enough bland and unneeded pages in this book to become the champion.

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